Moms often get accused of “nagging,” but sometimes, those helpful reminders make a tremendous difference in their family’s lives.
Rebecca Tafaro Boyer is a registered nurse from Memphis, Tennessee. Since she works in a children’s hospital, Rebecca sees a lot of parents strapping their babies into car seats, so she’s developed a pet peeve around making sure kids are properly restrained in a moving vehicle.
When Rebecca was ready to return to work after having her baby, William, she made sure to remind her husband of the proper way to secure the infant every chance she got.
On her first day back to work, Rebecca was texting with her husband, David, to make sure things went smoothly throughout the day. That afternoon, dad and baby jumped in their Volkswagon Jetta and took a ride to their local Walgreen’s, and David texted Rebecca a picture.
Naturally, the first thing Rebecca spied was the buckle of William’s car seat, which was positioned much too low on his chest.
“My nagging wife reply was to correct William’s position in the car seat – the straps were too loose and the chest clip was way too low. And because I know my husband, I’m sure that he laughed at me and rolled his eyes before tightening the car seat and fixing the chest clip.”
David dutifully adjusted William’s clip, and they continued on their journey back to the family homestead. Then, just three miles from home, Rebecca’s worst fear was realized. Another driver pulled into oncoming traffic in an attempt to turn left. David didn’t have time to stop, so he slammed on his brakes… but not before colliding with the side of the woman’s SUV.
As a testament to how well infant car seats work when they’re used properly, little William survived the crash with barely a scratch on him!
“My precious little bundle of joy was so well restrained in his car seat, THAT HE DIDN’T EVEN WAKE UP. Even with the impact of the two cars, William only received a minor jolt – so insignificant that he was able to continue on with his nap, and then spend the next two hours flirting with nurses in the Le Bonheur ED.
Poor David didn’t fare quite as well, breaking his foot in three places and dislocating three toes. There car was also a total loss. However, both David and Rebecca were filled with gratitude that the accident wasn’t worse, and that William had survived the entire incident unscathed.
Rebecca decided to share her story on Facebook to remind everyone how important it is to get those car seats just right.
“All infants should be REAR FACING in the back seat until at least the age of two and snuggly secured in a 5 POINT HARNESS in a car seat base that does not move more than one inch in any direction. I am so thankful that my husband took the extra one minute that was necessary to put William in his car seat safely. I can’t even begin to imagine how different the outcome could have been. I truly believe that the reason my family is at home sitting on the couch with a pair of crutches instead of down at the hospital is because of my annoying nagging mom voice.”
She also reminded everyone to throw out any car seat that was involved in a car accident, no matter how minor. Even though Rebecca’s Britax car seat looked completely unmarred, she made sure to recycle it appropriately.
“According to the NHTSA (National Highway Traffic Safety Administration) my expensive, barely broken in car seat is now garbage. Any car seat that has been involved in a moderate to severe motor vehicle incident where the car cannot be driven away from the scene of the crash immediately becomes defective.”
Since the car seat had done such a good job, Rebecca and David didn’t hesitate to go out and buy the exact same make and model of car seat. It definitely did its job well! Rebecca also shared a great tip: check with your insurance company to see if they’ll help cover the cost of a replacement seat.
“I didn’t write this with the intention of sounding preachy or to brag about my infinite car seat knowledge or to mom shame others (because trust me, as a new mom I’ve recently learned that I know NOTHING, but because there are millions of people out there riding around with precious cargo who genuinely don’t know that their child could be in a compromising position. And if that were my child, I would want someone to clue me in!”
Great points, Rebecca! We’re so glad you “nagged” your husband in this way, and thank you for providing this information to others who might not know the ins and outs of car seat safety.
You can find information on car seat safety and proper installation can be found online via safekids.org, at your local children’s hospital, or local police or fire departments.
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